The Pursuit of Happiness.
By Sam Kapur, Co-Founder of Guyding Principals.
In order for me to do this post justice I’ll need to get a bit personal. Before you listen to my thoughts on this subject there are some things you should know. Things that I have told very few people in my life. There was a time not too long ago where I didn’t see any benefit in being alive. I wouldn’t say I was suicidal, but the majority of my day was consumed by negative thoughts like why did it make sense to be alive anymore when I wasn’t enjoying any aspect of my life.
After speaking with a few of my friends about this I realized that I wasn’t alone in this thought. One day I finally decided that I no longer wanted to feel this way, I no longer wanted to be depressed, I wanted to be happy. Thus began my pursuit of happiness. Now I’m not going to tell you that it was easy to turn myself around. I’m not going to tell you that the moment you decide to be happy you will. It will take time, energy and persistence, but if you are ready to create a happy life than nothing can stop you buy yourself.
Too often I hear people say that they can’t help think negative thoughts, it’s just how their mind works and they can’t control it. That is pure BULLS**T and deep down inside you know it’s just not true. Your mind does not control you, you control your mind. Just like any muscle though, your mind and thoughts have elasticity, meaning that if you are used to thinking negative thoughts than you have a predisposition to negativity. In order to change this you need to do 2 basic things.
- Spend some time during the day to shut off your thoughts. (This is what meditation is). I know what you’re thinking, “but my mind is constantly racing and I can’t shut it off.” This my friends is the excuse you make so you don’t have to try.
- Acknowledge when you are thinking negative thoughts and turn it into as positive one.
Now this is where your persistence comes in. Just like anything else in life this takes practice. You won’t be very good at first, but keep making progress every day and I guarantee within a month or two you will notice a significant difference. Even if you only start by clearing your mind for one minute a day and turn one negative thought around, it’s a start.
I have had a lot of success in my life and I have had a lot of failures. I’ve driven around in expensive cars, owned a beautiful home, and had all the material possessions I wanted, but the time I was truly the happiest is when I lost EVERYTHING and could barely afford to feed myself. Why? Because I made a concerted effort to be happy. I felt that the world could take everything else away from my, but only I could take away my happiness.
My life at that point was consumed by my pursuit. I read every book, article, and blog I could on how to be happy. One book that completely changed my like was “Positive Intelligence” It is a quick read and gives easy exercises that anyone can incorporate into their daily routine. If you are tired of being unhappy I highly recommend you read this book immediately.
I would like to get your insight on this topic. What is a negative thought that you have had recently that you might be able to turn into a positive one?